It’s that time of year again—time for gatherings
and celebrations at work and at home. Although these can be enjoyable times,
sometimes the relationships we revisit during these events have a difficult
history and seem challenging.
It is within the power of each of us
to turn each moment with other people into either an opportunity for connection
and growth, or a stressful encounter that can leave both parties feeling
I want to share what is known as:
''The Four Agreements” this is excellent advice that we can use at this time of year
and throughout our lives:
This week I want to focus on the first agreement. Here it is in full:
Be Impeccable with your word:
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against
yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction
of truth and love.
What does this mean?
First of all we have to consider our
Word to be much more than the construct of words and phrases that comes out of
our mouth. Our Word is the force with which we create, and includes everything
we express. It includes our emotions, physical actions, thoughts and our
attitude. Walking around being silent while filled with hate or self-rejection
doesn’t meet the meaning of impeccability.
Expressing yourself impeccably is to express
yourself in the direction of truth and love. This includes expressing love,
respect, and acceptance for yourself and others. It can also include honesty
that provokes a discussion, but leads to more understanding, authenticity and
connection between people.
People learn many habits over the
years that condition them to use emotional and verbal expressions in ways that
are unkind to oneself or others.
This week stop and pay attention
to the words you use the most towards yourself and others. Remember that
with awareness you can start any transformation.
When you communicate without
criticizing, analyzing, blaming, or diagnosing yourself and others–describing
your observation, sharing your feelings, and clearly and respectfully asking
for your needs, you are more likely to inspire compassion and cooperation.
To keep this one seemingly simple agreement will require some time and
practice. Just know that every day that you become more impeccable with your
Word you will have more love and happiness in your life and in your
relationships. That is the truth! And it applies for holidays, and for your
Part Two will be posted Monday 10th December